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Dating Questions

Last night at APEX we tackled the controversial issue of dating. Quite fun. I shared a number of principles that I offer for your viewing pleasure. Much of this is from the teaching of Mark Driscoll, pastor of Mars Hill Church. Enjoy

Christian Dating Principles for Both Men & Women

  • Maximize your singleness for God.
  • The most important thing about the person you are dating is their relationship with God. How are you helping that?
  • Don’t pursue a relationship until you are ready to marry
  • Be reasonable – don’t set your expectations too high or too low
  • A date is not dating, but can become that
  • Never go on a date or date a non-Christian
  • Only date one person at a time
  • He initiates; she responds
  • Only invest in a relationship with someone you are attracted to entirely (physically, emotionally, spiritually, ministry gifts)
  • Guard your heart (Prov. 4:23)

Christian Dating Questions for Men

  • Are you overlooking good women?
  • Are you honoring God, her, her family, her friends, etc?
  • Is she modest?
  • Will she follow your leadership?
  • Does she have noble character (Prov. 31)?
  • Can you provide for the lifestyle she expects?
  • Do you want your daughters to be like her and your sons to marry someone like her?

Christian Dating Questions for Women

  • Do you want to help him and join his course of life? (Gen 2:18; I Cor. 11:9)
  • Is he tough enough to remain strong in tough times? (II Tim. 2:3)
  • Will he take responsibility for you and your children? (I Cor. 11: 3)
  • Is he considerate and gentle with you?
  • Will he be a good faither?
  • Is he a one woman man? (I Tim 3:2)
  • How valuable are you to him?
  • Do you want your sons to be like him and your daughters to marry someone like him?
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February 17, 2010 - Posted by | Young Adult Ministry

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  2. Thanks Dave! I wasn’t able to go to Apex yesterday, so I’m glad to read your notes.

    Comment by Jessica | February 18, 2010 | Reply

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